What Therapists Wish Their Clients Knew
Starting therapy, or even continuing it, can sometimes feel daunting or confusing. As a therapist, I often wish my clients knew a few things upfront that might make their journey a little easier and more empowering. Whether you’re new to therapy or have been coming for a while, here are some honest truths from me to you:
1. Therapy Is Your Space
This time is all about you. There’s no right or wrong way to show up here. You don’t have to have all the answers or say the “right” things. You get to lead the way, and I’m here to support whatever you bring in, whether that’s words, tears, silence, or even laughter.
2. Progress Isn’t Always Linear
Healing and growth rarely follow a straight path. Some weeks you might feel like you’re moving mountains, and others you might feel stuck or even take a step back. That’s okay. It’s all part of the process, and every step, even the tough ones, matters.
3. It’s Normal to Feel Vulnerable or Uncomfortable
Opening up isn’t easy. You might feel nervous, scared, or unsure. Those feelings mean you’re doing something brave. Trust that it’s okay to take your time and that vulnerability is a sign of strength, not weakness.
4. Boundaries and Honesty Help Us Work Together
If something isn’t working, whether it’s how a session feels, a technique we’re trying, or even scheduling, please tell me. Your feedback helps me tailor therapy to your needs. This is a collaboration, and your voice matters.
5. You’re Not Alone in How You Feel
Many people experience similar struggles, even if it doesn’t seem that way on the surface. Therapy is a place to explore those feelings without judgment and to find new ways of coping, connecting, and thriving.
6. Small Changes Add Up
You might not notice every shift as it happens, but small changes in how you think, feel, or react build over time. Celebrate the little wins — they’re signs of your resilience and effort.
7. Self-Care Looks Different for Everyone
There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to self-care. It could be something big like setting boundaries or something simple like taking a moment to breathe. We can explore what truly nourishes you in therapy.
8. You Can Bring Your Whole Self
Whether you’re neurodivergent, have experienced trauma, or have parts of yourself you’ve hidden away, this space is for all of it. You don’t have to “fix” yourself before you come here; you’re welcome exactly as you are.
How to Prepare for Your First Therapy Session
Starting something new can feel uncertain, so here are a few gentle ways to get ready for your first session:
Know You Don’t Have to Plan Everything. You don’t need a script. Just show up. We’ll take it from there together.
Bring a Few Thoughts or Questions. You might reflect on why you’re seeking therapy, what’s been feeling hard lately, or even what you’re hoping for in a therapist.
Give Yourself Permission to Be Nervous. It’s completely normal to feel unsure at first, therapy is a new relationship, and we build trust over time.
Comfort Is Key. Dress comfortably, bring a drink or fidget, or even let me know what helps you feel safe in a new space. (Shoes off and feet up are always welcome!)
Be Curious, Not Perfect. Therapy isn’t about having it all figured out — it’s a place to explore, question, and be honest without pressure.
Final Thought
Therapy is a journey we take together. I’m here not just as a professional, but as a human who genuinely wants to see you feel heard, understood, and supported. If you ever wonder if therapy is “working” or if you’re “doing it right,” remember: showing up is already a huge step.
Thank you for trusting me with your story.