How to Maintain Sobriety During the Holidays
For many of us, the holidays are a time to come together with family and friends to celebrate the season and reconnect with one another. The holidays can bring with it hectic schedules, high expectations, dwindling funds, and reminders of loved ones who have died or are no longer available to us. November and December can be triggers for relapse. Creating a game plan for this time of year is vital for success in your recovery. If you assume that you’ll be fine without any additional thought or support, then you are trying to be strong about your sobriety, not smart. Being smart in your recovery means being prepared for any situation that may occur and choosing what your limits are rather than forcing yourself to withstand whatever is going on around you.
Set Clear Boundaries
Identify what environments or situations feel risky to you.
Decide ahead of time what you will and won’t participate in.
Ask family or friends not to use substances around you — it’s okay to make this request.
Have an exit plan if someone crosses that boundary or if you notice urges building.
Give yourself permission to make only a brief appearance and leave early if needed.
Build and Strengthen Your Support System
Bring a sober buddy to gatherings for added stability.
Increase attendance at support groups during November and December.
Stay connected with people who support your recovery — texts, calls, or quick check-ins make a difference.
Stay Busy, but Stay Balanced
Keep yourself engaged with healthy, meaningful activities.
Consider volunteering — it can be grounding and fulfilling.
Prioritize coping strategies that help you regulate:
Exercise
Spiritual or grounding practices
Mindfulness
Creative outlets
Pay attention to early warning signs and respond quickly when something feels off.
The most important thing to know is that you have choice. You can choose who you are around, how long you stay at an event, if you stay home, and how you spend your time. Once you make it through the holiday without a relapse you will build your confidence which will help you continue to remain sober. It’s never easy but its always worth it.